We typically associate our OBGYN visits with pap smears, breast exams, and uncomfortable conversations about our “lady parts.” Rarely do we connect these clinical encounters with the concept of joy. But as it turns out, as your gynecologist, I’ve been quietly observing the connection between your reproductive health and your happiness for years.

The Mind-Body Connection Is Real

In my 25 years as a board-certified OBGYN physician, I’ve seen firsthand how a woman’s mental health can impact her physical health. Women who nurture joy in their lives may report fewer stress-related symptoms like irregular periods, decreased libido, and even less severe menopausal symptoms.

That’s right, sisters. The pursuit of joy isn’t just good for your spirit—it’s actually beneficial for your overall health.

Pleasure Is Not a Luxury

Many of us grew up in generations where women’s pleasure was treated as taboo or secondary. As your OBGYN, I want you to know that sexual pleasure and satisfaction are legitimate aspects of your health care.

I can’t tell you how many women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond finally feel comfortable enough to ask about sexual pleasure in my office. The look of relief on their faces when I normalize their conversations about desires is profound. Women deserve pleasure at every age. It is vital that you know that.

This isn’t just about sex. It’s about the broader recognition that your enjoyment matters—whether in the bedroom, the boardroom, or anywhere in between.

Stress Management Is Preventative Medicine

When I ask about your stress levels during appointments, there’s good reason for this. Chronic stress can trigger inflammation in the body, exacerbate menopause symptoms, and even affect vaginal health.

When I talk to my patients about reducing their stress, I’m not just making conversation. I’m writing a prescription for better overall health and wellness.

Activities that bring you joy—whether it’s blasting your favorite tunes, dancing in your home, connecting with friends, or enjoying a peaceful morning ritual—are powerful medicine.

Your Body Knows More Than You Think

That intuitive feeling that something’s not quite right? As your OBGYN, I want you to trust it.

In my experience, women often apologize for bringing up concerns, calling them ‘silly’ or ‘probably nothing.’ But time and again, that intuition leads to important discoveries about their health.

The joy of living in alignment with your body’s wisdom is profound. Trust yourself. Honor what feels right—and what doesn’t.

Aging Is Not Your Enemy

The anti-aging messaging bombarding women is relentless. But as a gynecologist who has cared for women through all life stages, I see the beauty and power in every stage of womanhood. Please embrace that, Sis.

The women who embrace their journey rather than fighting it are often the ones with the most vibrant energy in my office. There’s joy in acceptance, in moving with the current of your life rather than swimming against it.

In my 25 years of practice, I’ve seen thousands of women and thousands of bodies. The ones who radiate health aren’t necessarily the youngest or the thinnest—they’re the ones who have found peace with their changing bodies, whatever that means for them.

The next time you visit your gynecologist, remember that we care about more than just your physical checkup. We see the whole woman before us—and we know that your joy is not separate from your health, but integral to it.

So go ahead, sister. Pursue that joy. Doctor’s orders.