Too many of us have experienced it—that moment when we’ve just left our gynecologist appointment and suddenly remember three important questions we meant to ask. We then spend the next 12 months wondering about the answers or, worse, consulting Dr. Google instead.
As mature women, our reproductive health needs evolve, but our need for clear, personalized information remains constant. Consider these essential questions at your next visit to help make sure you are getting the information you need to live your best life.
What changes should I expect at this age?
Our bodies are constantly shifting, especially during perimenopause and beyond. Instead of being surprised by new developments, ask your doctor to walk you through what’s normal for your current life stage.
“I spent months worrying about my irregular periods before realizing they were simply the beginning of perimenopause,” shares Deborah, 52. “A simple conversation with my doctor would have saved me so much anxiety.”
Your OBGYN has seen thousands of women traverse these changes. Their experience provides context for your journey.
Is this symptom related to my hormones?
Fatigue, mood changes, sleep disturbances, weight fluctuations—many women don’t realize these seemingly unrelated issues might connect to hormonal shifts. Your gynecologist can help connect these dots.
Be specific about when symptoms occur, their severity, and any patterns you’ve noticed. This information helps your doctor determine whether hormonal factors are at play and what solutions might help. I’ve even advised some patients to keep journals, so that they can remember to share their experiences during clinical visits.
What preventative screenings are appropriate for me now?
Screening recommendations evolve based on age, personal health history, and family risk factors. Don’t assume your doctor will automatically order every test you need.
Ask which screenings are recommended for your specific situation and how frequently you should have them. This conversation might include discussions about mammograms, bone density tests, colonoscopies, and other age-appropriate screenings.
Can we discuss sexual health and comfort?
Many women, especially those raised in generations where women’s sexuality wasn’t openly discussed, hesitate to bring up intimate concerns. Your gynecologist has heard it all before and can offer solutions for issues like vaginal dryness, decreased libido, or painful intercourse. But this is a two-way street; be sure you have a gynecologist who opens the door to sexual health and wellness conversations and that you feel comfortable having those discussions with them.
Remember: sexual health remains an important aspect of overall well-being at every age.
What lifestyle changes would benefit my reproductive health the most?
Your OBGYN can provide personalized recommendations based on your specific health profile. Whether it’s nutrition adjustments, exercise modifications, stress management techniques, or sleep improvements, these suggestions can significantly impact your hormonal balance and reproductive health.
What resources do you recommend for learning more?
Ask your doctor to suggest reliable books, websites, or support groups related to your current health stage. This extends your education beyond the limited time of your appointment.
How can I contact you between appointments if I have concerns?
Many practices have patient portals, nurse lines, or email systems for non-emergency questions. Knowing these pathways in advance prevents unnecessary worry or inappropriate self-treatment.
Remember, sister, your appointment time is precious. Consider bringing a written list of questions, prioritized by importance. Some women even email their questions to the office before their appointment so the doctor can be prepared to address their specific concerns.
Your health advocacy is not an imposition—it’s your right. The most effective healthcare happens when informed patients partner with knowledgeable providers. Your questions don’t just benefit you; they help your doctor provide the personalized care you deserve.
